A good word to
describe my day today is; heavy. I came to Ghana to work with an NGO in
business development with female farmers in a rural part of the country. I had
a moment today as I was sitting in a brothel in the slums of Accra when I thought,
“what the hell am I doing here”. It passed quickly as I collected the strength
to put on my game face to get through our work. Being confident around the sex
workers and their pimps meant the difference between polite hello’s and being
taken advantage of. This is how I found
myself there.

I got off the
bus at the designated spot and as I looked around I knew I was close to the
market, a busy part of town mostly devoid of foreigners, especially on their
own. People shout at me from across the street and from cars and motorbikes
going by “Obruni, where are you going? What are you doing here?” My colleague
arrived in time to save me from awkwardly rejecting a man asking for my phone
number so we could marry and I could bring him back home with me. She led me through a maze of huts and
converted shipping containers that made up the community they were working in, towards
their satellite office. As I swatted away the flies I choked back the urge to
cough at the pungent odors at every turn.
Frying fish, a dead dog, garbage everywhere, the smell will haunt me in
my dreams tonight. We waited for the team to arrive, children running by me and
gawking at the unfamiliar visitor, one even so bold as to poke me and run away.
As most of the women I was working with had limited English the conversation
hung around them giggling at the nickname they had given me the week before
“Nana Afia” or Queen Friday, as this was the day I was born which is
significant to them. Once everyone had arrived it was time to head out. When I
asked them where we were heading and what we were doing they said “Were going
to meet the women”, I was really in it now.
Our group of
seven women accompanied by three male assistants walked calmly through the
muddy pathways towards a more trafficked area. There someone pointed to a
narrow doorway leading into a dark room, “we're going in there”. Pricilla, the
one who had picked me up from the bus stop pulled me aside and told me “we are
going in there, don’t worry they are mostly Nigerian and can speak English”.
When I asked what I needed to do I was answered with a wave through into the
darkness. As I entered I was greeted with the smell of marijuana and sweat that
simmered in the air along with pulsing beats coming from a sound system on max.
Women that were casually dressed sauntered about the room and peeked out of
hallways, a few men passed through the room, drinking and smoking and not
paying much attention other than to stare me down for being the odd looking
Obruni in the room. My colleagues, familiar with some of the women seemed
totally at ease, introducing me to some of their old favourites. I politely
smiled, shook hands and said many hello’s, watching in awe as the women quietly
and efficiently set up shop inside. A Peer Educator (PE) I came in with, a
dainty, seemingly calm looking girl produced a wooden dildo from her purse and
stuffed it between her legs. She then unwrapped a condom and demonstrated how
to properly wear one, surprising many of her viewers who were unfamiliar. While
that was going on another PE set up her work station “were going to do the
testing”, right here, in this unlit room inside the brothel. I volunteered to
hold her phone as a light throughout the procedures, offering what little
assistance I could in this situation.

We left only
when we had run out of test kits, needing to return because we hadn’t seen
everyone. “They are all new inside, so we have many tests to do” the
routineness of her statement stuck with me. I was led to the police station; it
was good practice to keep the police informed of our activity in the area. As
the golden ticket I was paraded through to a constable and a police chief “this
is a volunteer come to see our work” “You are welcome” they would say. What was
I doing here? It didn’t matter anymore. What mattered was that these women were
putting themselves on the line everyday, these are the world’s superhero’s,
women will save us all. I’m going out again tomorrow, even if it was just to
shine a light on the work being done here.
Wether your day was light or heavy like mine, I hope it meant something.
XX Melanie
Wether your day was light or heavy like mine, I hope it meant something.
XX Melanie
Mel I'm so proud of you being in a place to learn about another part of the world so far from our own. Even if it will be hard everyday know that you are in our thoughts way over here in Canada and we're all very proud of you. By the time you get back here I have a funny feeling you'll have a whole new perspective that I hope you share.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you in snowy Kamloops.
D.